A lack of self-confidence can result in our being confrontational when challenged.
DEALING WITH CONFLICT
Conflict is inevitable. Destructive conflict is not.
Conflict is inevitable. Destructive conflict is not.
Have you heard about the elderly couple who were celebrating 50+ years of marriage? During an interview, they both assured the reporter that in all of their 50 years together they had never had even one disagreement. The reporter was quite skeptical but he asked the obvious question: “So what is the secret to never fighting as husband and wife?” The old gentlemen coughed sheepishly into his hand before answering, “Well, my secret’s pretty simple: No matter what I think, I simply say, “Yes dear, of course - you’re right.”
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This attitude adjustment requires us to give up the “win at all costs” mentality. We must stop viewing conflict as a contest where there are winners and there are losers. With such an attitude, you might win the argument but lose the relationship. Instead, we need to promote seeking solutions in which all parties feel a sense of satisfaction.
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